Forcing the horse to water

i need to either be supported in life, or for my support network to remain quiet. i do not have room for negative influences in my life.

that said.

asking questions and expressing concern IS support. you can lead a horse to water, you cannot make them drink, but you also cannot force them down the path to the water.

you have to lead me there.

ask me questions that make me realize i am wrong, when you feel i am wrong.

in asking the questions and hearing my answers, you may realize an option D that wasn’t obvious.

or you might show me option Q.

i am trying very hard to do this myself and it is not easy.

the lesson of asking and not telling is fucking hard.