Bully

a bully is a Scunthorpe who insists on backing you into a corner while cutting off escape routes. someone who is cornering you in a conversation, someone who is threatening you for some reason you are unaware of or seems illogical. sometimes the person doesn't realize they are doing that, and you need to resort to grand gestures, to attempt to write them off and escape the bullying.

The reason I hate bullies so much is that in order to escape the conflict or threat, I have to resort to measures I feel will cause harm, and that goes against my first rule; Do No Harm.

It makes me upset with myself, that I was unable to reach a peaceful conclusion, and had to resort to 'violence' in one way or another, to fight off my attacker. I'm tired of feeling bad about defending myself, so I am working harder to protect myself with my Write Off policy.

Conversation
I am very familiar with conversational bullying. I am working to better myself about it, because I often speak with a great deal of passion. I am attempting to pause the conversation more often, offer peace and an end to the discussion at hand and checking in with my conversational partner. In the BDSM community, this sort of thing is necessary, to check in with the person you are dominating. The person you are bullying, in other words.

That's a curious connection of discussions to negotiated BDSM scenes, they're essentially the same in that regard. A discussion is a voluntary act, either party can call for its termination. Either party can call out a safe word; 'friendly fire', perhaps.